FRIENDS
After some considering, i decided to bring up the subject friends!
Its nothing personal, just a little bit about my thoughts around this subject.
You don't pick your friends. Friends are not one of those many importent choices you have to make.
your parents are always worried and they always tells you to be carefull whit whom you hang out.
Friends are nothing like that. Your friends are a reflection of you. With this i dont meen that you and your friends are exactly alike, i meen that your friends come out of your behavior. If you are sure about yourself and your position in dilemmas but still can respect other peoples opinions, you will probably end up having friends that eihter share your opinions or respect that you disagree.
If you show other people faith you automaticly send out a message that you demand faithfulness back. If you aren't yourself how can you be suprised that your closest friend turns out being someone you didn't expect him/her to be? How can you expect someone to keep you secret when you just told her someone else's? Its not about trying to be perfect to find a perfect friend either. Everyone make mistakes even you, you should keep that in mind. How come that i was forgiven by my friends after making terrible mistakes? After abusing my nerest friends faith and honest against me? You will be forgiven if you have always stood by their sides when they have been troubled. If you always have been honest and faithful you are allowed to make unforgiveble misstakes and still be forgiven. If you are enough cloose to your friends and have been a real friend, your friedns will also know you well enough to be sure that even thougt time passes you will come back and it will all be worth those sacrifices they made. Because they know that if something similar ever happens to them you will be willing to sacrifies everything for them. Its a give and take situation. A matter of trust and knowing who your friends are because you have always showed who you are.
How glamorous will it be that day when you notise that your friends wasn't ready to give it all for your friendship?
Will you wonder why they didn't, or will you just understand that maybee it was because they didn't really know where they had you? Because they couldn't enough relay on the strength of you friendship?
You cant just be friend whit someone for six months, first " best friends" then a dilemma comes up, you disagree, get into a big fight and start hating eachother" Then you call her things like "unrelyable bitch" and you never speak to her againg. In 90 % your next friendship will turn out exactly the same. Because you didnt understood your part in the event the first time. If you would have shown that you are relyable at the beggining it would probably not have ended that way. It takes more than just some weeks and some nice words to get best friend. At least if you want to be best friend that stands by eachother nomather what! And believe me, that is the kind of friends you want. And to have one you must be one!
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Its nothing personal, just a little bit about my thoughts around this subject.
You don't pick your friends. Friends are not one of those many importent choices you have to make.
your parents are always worried and they always tells you to be carefull whit whom you hang out.
Friends are nothing like that. Your friends are a reflection of you. With this i dont meen that you and your friends are exactly alike, i meen that your friends come out of your behavior. If you are sure about yourself and your position in dilemmas but still can respect other peoples opinions, you will probably end up having friends that eihter share your opinions or respect that you disagree.
If you show other people faith you automaticly send out a message that you demand faithfulness back. If you aren't yourself how can you be suprised that your closest friend turns out being someone you didn't expect him/her to be? How can you expect someone to keep you secret when you just told her someone else's? Its not about trying to be perfect to find a perfect friend either. Everyone make mistakes even you, you should keep that in mind. How come that i was forgiven by my friends after making terrible mistakes? After abusing my nerest friends faith and honest against me? You will be forgiven if you have always stood by their sides when they have been troubled. If you always have been honest and faithful you are allowed to make unforgiveble misstakes and still be forgiven. If you are enough cloose to your friends and have been a real friend, your friedns will also know you well enough to be sure that even thougt time passes you will come back and it will all be worth those sacrifices they made. Because they know that if something similar ever happens to them you will be willing to sacrifies everything for them. Its a give and take situation. A matter of trust and knowing who your friends are because you have always showed who you are.
How glamorous will it be that day when you notise that your friends wasn't ready to give it all for your friendship?
Will you wonder why they didn't, or will you just understand that maybee it was because they didn't really know where they had you? Because they couldn't enough relay on the strength of you friendship?
You cant just be friend whit someone for six months, first " best friends" then a dilemma comes up, you disagree, get into a big fight and start hating eachother" Then you call her things like "unrelyable bitch" and you never speak to her againg. In 90 % your next friendship will turn out exactly the same. Because you didnt understood your part in the event the first time. If you would have shown that you are relyable at the beggining it would probably not have ended that way. It takes more than just some weeks and some nice words to get best friend. At least if you want to be best friend that stands by eachother nomather what! And believe me, that is the kind of friends you want. And to have one you must be one!
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